It’s been
forever since I’ve wrote but I’m pretty damn fired up right now and I need an
outlet. Holidays are stressful for everyone, no doubt about that, but for those
of us that do it with a special needs child… hello hell!!!
Bah Humbug and
Merry F’ing Christmas… I am so damn over this shit! Once Halloween is over it’s
all downhill for the rest of the year. I don’t like being the person that wants
everyone to accommodate to them because they have a child with Autism. However,
I get so sick and tired of feeling like I’m running into the same brick wall
over and over. Although it’s not fair to my older two kids, I think I’m 100% to
the point of we will be having Thanksgiving/Christmas at our house, with our
kids and if you want to see us then bring your butt on over and see us.
No one seems to
even attempt to get it. Why can no one understand??? It is absolute hell taking
Lil B to a family gathering at someone else’s’ house. At least if the
gatherings are at our house, she can retreat to her room when she gets
overwhelmed like she does when we have the kids’ birthday parties here. If we
aren’t home, her only refuge is the car; nothing’s more fun than sitting alone
in the car with your kid or driving around aimlessly while everyone else is
together doing activities.
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| Lil B and I driving around on 4th of July while 2 hours from home |
Things aren’t as simple as handing Lil B some damn
crayons and thinking she’s gonna be all good in a place she’s at maybe once a
year, that isn’t kid friendly, sure as hell isn’t ASD kid friendly, and where
she can basically do nothing. Those crayons will work real damn good until I
turn my head for 3 seconds and she colors on your wall or God knows what else.
YOU ENJOYING HAVING THE HOLIDAYS AT YOUR HOUSE NOW?!?!
Don’t get me
wrong, we have family that try to make sure there are things she loves at their
house so that she is happy as best as can be. There’s still no solution for
when she is overwhelmed and needs her happy place, but it at least helps and we
appreciate that.
This year brings
an even extra “hell no we won’t go” feeling to going place for the holidays as
my husband will be having hip surgery three days before Christmas. <insert
old man joke here, I’m too annoyed to be witty.>
Tell me I’m not
alone here people! I know other special needs families go through the same
things. What are your solutions? Talk to me!
Until next time…
